Ethical Porn For Dicks

Our media is filled with confusing, polarizing messages about the dangers of porn, while at the same time sexually explicit images are pronounced in advertising and entertainment. Using a natural question/answer format for people feeling fear and shame about porn use, this accessible, funny, and well-informed book is the first one to offer men a nonjudgmental way to discover how to view and use pornography responsibly.

The Author

David J. Ley, Ph.D., is an internationally-recognized expert on issues related to sexuality, pornography and mental health. He has appeared on television with Anderson Cooper, Katie Couric, Dr. Phil and has been in publications ranging from the LA Times and the London Telegraph, to Playboy and HUSTLER magazines. Dr. Ley has published extensively in both the academic and “pop” realms of literature. His two books, The Myth of Sex Addiction (2012) and Insatiable Wives (2009) were revolutionary explorations of sexual issues which blended a powerful client-centered narrative with a rich understanding of psychology, biology, and sociology.Dr. Ley has been treating sexuality issues throughout his career. He first began treating perpetrators and victims of sexual abuse, but expanded his approach to include the fostering and promotion of healthy sexuality, and awareness of the wide range of normative sexual behaviors. Insatiable Wives is his first book and won a Silver Medal in the Foreword Magazine Book of the Year contest for 2009. Dr. Ley wrote Insatiable Wives following two years of interviews with couples around the country. His controversial second book, The Myth of Sex Addiction was released in March 2012, challenging the concept of sexual addiction and exploring a different model of male sexuality. The Myth of Sex Addiction triggered a firestorm of debate, allowing people to finally challenge the media hype of this pseudo-disorder.Dr. Ley is a practicing clinical psychologist and he directs an addiction recovery clinic in Albuquerque, NM.

Advance Praise

“There’s a lot of screaming, yelling, and smut-shaming out there about porn. David Ley’s reasonable, calm, informed writing about porn should be read by anyone interested in porn  — and it should be required reading for anyone tempted to legislate about it.”—Dan Savage, Columnist and Host of “The Savage Nation” Podcast

“An important book for men of all ages, written by an expert in men’s (and couples’) sexualities.” -—Debby Herbenick, PhD, president-elect of AASECT, associate professor at Indiana University and author of Because It Feels Good

“David Ley’s voice brings much-needed nuance to some of the most important conversations occurring about pornography today. He explores the many facets of male fantasy and sexuality and also brings careful perspective to discourses surrounding the ethics of porn. Whether you watch porn or not, this book offers a comprehensive view of a comprehensive view of adult entertainment and engages on important levels that have been missed by so many in the past.”—The Pornhub Team, www.pornhub.com

Ethical Porn for Dicks is the answer to today’s ever-growing porn panic. As a sex educator, performer, and video producer I’ve witnessed firsthand the damage of shaming perfectly normal porn use in men. David Ley’s humorous easy-to-read text neither cheerleads nor attacks porn itself, but rather provides a commonsense, research-backed way for men to engage in happy, healthy, and shame-free sexual exploration.”—Kelsey Obsession, PhD

“There’s nothing sexier than smart. And this is one smart book. With topics that range from sexism to shame, ethics to addiction, David Ley starts constructive conversations for and about men who watch porn.”—Shira Tarrant, PhD, professor and author of The Pornography Industry: What Everyone Needs to Know

Ethical Porn For Dicks is the sex talk your father meant to give you. Straight shooting and scientifically informed, David Ley has written the instruction manual for having a male sex drive. David Ley’s Ethical Porn For Dicks is quickly going to be a standard on every sex therapist’s shelf, and reading it, the first line of treatment for anyone who things they have a porn problem. For parents who aren’t quite sure how to have THAT talk with their kid, Uncle David is going to be a big help.”—Dr. James Cantor, Psychologist and Sexual Behavior Scientist

“David Ley takes a refreshingly honest look at societal consumption of erotic media, and the resulting porn panic.  He cuts through the BS, and facilitates a frank discussion of who looks at porn, why they do it, and what happens when they do. You won’t find any pandering or political correctness here.  This book is for those who want to confront the issue head on, to gain a real understanding about people, porn, and culture.” —Larry G. Walters, First Amendment Attorney and Free Speech Advocate

“If you’ve ever felt guilty or confused enjoying porn, hit the pause button, put down the tissues, and read this book! Dr. Ley gives an insightful, irreverent, and pragmatic take on how lessening the shame and fear surrounding our beliefs and habits around porn makes us healthier, more conscious, compassionate, (and hawt) human beings.” —”America’s favorite sex geek,” Reid Mihalko of ReidAboutSex.com

“Are you a man? Do you like porn? Then this is the book for you. It explains what ethical porn is, how to find it, and how to use it (hint – start paying for your porn). It’s intelligent, informed, ethical and sane, written by a bloke for blokes. I’ve never seen anything like it and I think it’s wonderful. In an ideal world it should be given away in schools to every young man before they start believing that watching porn has made them into evil monsters. Dr David Ley is making the world a better place.”—Professor Alan McKee, Co-author of Pornography, Structure and Agency

“David Ley gives men, and the porn debates, what they need: perspective, rationality, and realism. Writing in a no-nonsense, male-friendly style, he conceptualizes porn as an aspect f sexuality that adults can choose to control and use responsibly. Ethical porn use? This could change everything.”—Andrew Smiler, PhD, author of Dating and Sex: A Guide for the 21st Century Teen Boy

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